Hello you sexy beasts! I hope everyone out there had a fabulous New Years, mine was so rad that I am just now recovering from it. Seriously.
Anyway, I hope everyone made a New Year's resolution to blindly follow Sea Hag's advise this year, and to just say no to skinny jeans because no one looks good in them. For realz. So let's start off this year by answering yet another desperate plea with Ask Sea Hag:
Today's lesson: Managing a man-valanche
Sea Hag,
I started dating this guy a few months ago it's not serious or anything we just hang out. Then I met this other guy at a party and we have been hanging out for the last few weeks so do I tell the first guy that I'm seeing someone else now? Do I tell the other guy that I'm dating someone else?
Tina
Dear Run-On Sentence Girl, So, let me get this straight...at one point you only had one man in your life? Shame on you! Have I not taught you people anything? Well, I'll just ignore that (along with your obvious disdain for commas) and tell you this: you don't have to tell them anything.
I know I'm going to get some crap for that, but hear me out. First of all, I am not aware of any law stating that you must divulge any and all of your personal baggage to every guy who buys you a drink. Now, if you get into a committed relationship with someone then yes, it's probably a good idea to tell him about your four ex-husbands and your ties with the Mafia. But for the purposes of 'just hanging out' I'd say that you aren't obliged to say anything, just remember to be smart and play safe.
And now here's where everyone says well how would you like it if one of the guys you were dating was also seeing someone else and you didn't know about it? Well, it would suck as I'm kinda territorial, and if they had energy for another girl then I'm obviously doing something wrong, but that's just how dating works. Put on your big-girl panties and deal. If it bothered me that a dude was seeing other chicas then that might indicate that I'm ready for something more serious, and that's what I should pursue instead of randomly dating around.
In the end, you determine your own morals. If you feel that it's 'wrong' to not tell either one, then tell them (and be casual about it, never do a 'we need to talk' scene), but be ready for the possibility that one or both of them may stop seeing you. If it doesn't bother you then play on, player.
Love, Labels: Love is a Battlefield, Sea Hag |
Well said.
Don't hate the Player, hate the haters. (I didn't say 'hate the game' like you expected)